So recently one of my best friends has become pregnant. She is also a CRNA that graduated with me, started work at the same time, and is tall like myself. I'm about 5'11''...She's about 6'0'' former model. I am no where as cute as her...but that is another post. But she only picks up time at our hospital a few times a month because she lives on the other side of the state. So people recently heard that she has become pregnant with her first. We work at a large hospital..about 1000 beds with 30+ operating rooms. So some people that we don't know well...will call each of us by each other's name...whether it be circulating nurses or surgeons. You can see where this is heading!
So people have just begun to hear of her being pregnant. She waited awhile to tell people since she had had a miscarriage. She's about 12 weeks along. So over the course of the last two weeks..about 10 people have come up to congratulate me on our pregnancy. Ouch. Ouch. I politely tell them that they are talking about my friend and not me. They are apologetic and say well...at least you're not trying..are you? What the hell do you say to that to people you don't know that well?
I tell them that my friend is doing well...and would love to know that they were thinking of her. I quickly change the subject and hope for the best. Yesterday one of our neuro surgeons came up...touched my stomach and asked how the baby was doing? What the heck? Actually I had more colorful words in my head...but want to remain tasteful here on the blogs. I politely reminded him that I was not the pregnant one! My boss was present for the belly touching incident. She later pulled me aside...said I'm so sorry..how are you doing? She herself had been through IVF and is a sympathetic ear. I said...just fine..I'm a stronger cookie than that.
On a lighter note...I'm off to a couple's shower tonight for a girl that my husband works with. It should be good because it's less baby shower focused and more party focused. What a relief! They are from India and don't like the whole traditional baby shower stuff. And she is a great cook and it is at their house..so I'm sure my belly will go home happy! I ordered their gift from the internet and had it shipped so that I wouldn't have to subject myself to the baby store experience. Sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming over the last few months. Never thought I'd get to that experience...but guess I have. Pathetic I know...but I"m just being honest.
Tomorrow I go in for my LH levels to be drawn..hopefully I'll be ovulating soon on this Femara last ditch cycle and we can do an IUI before moving to IVF next month. But if not..at least I don't feel as crappy as on the clomid. Other than the fact that I ruptured an ovarian cyst this week...life is good. Very good! Take care...guess I have to go outside and brave the snow to get some groceries...we got about 3 more inches today!
8 comments:
Yikes! How awful for you!
I am also highly against random people touching bellies too. Regardless of what is in them. I would probably smack someone who did that to me without warning.
That sounds absolutely dreadful! I wish I couldn't relate to this so well. I fail to understand why people ask that question and do random belly touching unless one is a good 7 months along. Ugh! Am so PO'd for you.
When I transferred from the ICU to the PACU, I gained some weight because we are happy people and we have parties all the time. I would occasionally bump into some former coworkers ICU and they would actually ask me if I was pregnant! No, I'm just fat, thanks for asking. They would try to retract by saying I had a "glow," but whatev. And, my nosy PACU coworkers used to constantly ask me when I was going to have kids. Grrr.... I think they must have figured some things out by now, though.
That is rough. I think I might have punched that neurosurgeon in the head. The mistaken identity aside - that behavior seems really unprofessional! Boundaries, man! Boundaries!
Thanks for your comments on my last post. At least you have the gusto to attend a shower, even if it is wrapped in a regular party. My circle are not the "showery" type-- but I wouldn't be going to any even if they were!
I hope you are right about friendships withstanding pressures like these. I guess that is all I can do now... is hope.
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Oh no he didn't! Oh Sara, are you kidding me!? That's worse than the comment from my hair dresser last week. What is wrong with people? Like the other commenter said, I wish I couldn't relate to this so well.
That's such a good idea on sending the gift. I can't go in those baby stores. It kills me. It seems I have a baby shower at work every other month, and I usually just pitch in money and let someone else go get the gift. I usually turn my head even when at stores like Walmart when I go past the baby aisles. It's just too painful.
Ouch on the ovarian cyst! Gotta love the lingering side effects of all our dear fertility drugs, huh? I think I had one burst a while back too...
Keep your head up, friend! Good things are ahead for you...I just know it!
Hugs,
Becca
your good ole other UU half!
The neurosurgeon needs a lobotomy.
Hey!
Good luck today! I hope you get to do the IUI. Let me know!
P.S. Did your RE give you stats on the rate of success with IVF with a UU and only being able to put one in? Just curious...
Hugs!
What an awkward situation at work. You handle it with a lot more grace than I would. I hope the ruptured cyst didn't cause too much pain though I suspect that is asking the impossible.
Good grief, what a week you've had! I can't believe you're so calm and composed! Jerky people, a baby shower and a ruptured cyst!? You ARE one tough cookie! I hope the party is fun for you and I'll pray that you have a nice, restorative, restful weekend!!
-Jen
PS: I'm 6'2 ;)
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