This weekend I decided on a new approach to our whole fertility journey. Even though I have every intention of pursuing IVF in the next following months...I have decided that the answer I will tell my close coworkers and friends that I am tired of rehashing our fertility journey with that we are taking a break. My closest famiyy, friends, and like two essential coworkers will know that we are moving forward...but for everyone else...they can think we are taking a break from everything. Today I had a somewhat close, but at the same time...not so close coworker ask how everything was going...I said.."okay..we're kind of taking a break now." She quickly said...I hope everything goes well..and she didn't ask anymore questions. It was like music to my ears. I no longer had to rehash my disappointment for the month of our cycle being cancelled. She had no idea. It was uplifting....one of the best feelings ever!
I realize that you need support in the whole IF journey...but sometimes too much input can be exhausting. And unfortunately there are many great things with working in medicine...but coworkers knowing too much of you personal business can be one of them! So for now, I have taken a passive, hush word point of view...with me taking letting people know of our IVF journey on an as to know basis...and it feels good. Really good. I hope everyone is having a good week also.
It looks like we may be starting our IVf in end of Feb, early March. I think we may try to plan a last minute Europe trip for end of April as we will just be finding out if it worked or not. Right now Amsterdam and London combo are tops on the list. Although an apartment in Southern France on the beach for two weeks sounds great too...oh decisions...decisions....these are what are keeping me sane!
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I agree that too much input can be exhausting. That's why I am blogging and not telling anyone in real life. We aren't up to IVF or IUI yet though. I may have to rethink my position when we get that far.
I definitely think going undercover is a good idea. For IVF#1 too many people knew and it was annoying to have people asking questions, and sucked beyond belief to have to tell people that it didn't work. For FET#1 next to nobody knew. DP, MIL & 2 friends. Soooooo much better.
Take me to Europe with you! LOL. I think it's a good idea about going undercover too. We tried to keep our IVF last spring hush-hush because I didn't want everyone asking how things were going on a daily basis. Staying mum really helped us focus on the cycle and manage expectations since we had no idea how the cycle would go.
I think it's a great idea to stay hush-hush. I got so tired of people knowing the ins and outs of my cycle and personal life, and it's so liberating to not have to talk about it anymore. I so know the feeling! I think the biggest thing is I did not like being asked, and that's what I was trying to avoid.
You need to do whats best for you- and sounds like you know exactly what you want and need to do! Congrats to you for feeling good about making decisions
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