Planning our next move - " Operation Give Brynn a Sibling"

Well, we're full steam ahead with the plans for our friend M and our gestational carrier cycle. I'm thinking we'll call it "Give Brynn a sibling Operation 101 - Top Secret Ops!" Well, okay not so top secret since I'm detailing it here, LOL! M got all of the paperwork from our RE over the last few days and some areas are a bit fuzzy. Since the whole surrogacy thing here in MI is not possible I think we're going to bypass the few things that are covered by insurance such as HIV and STD testing and just pay out of pocket as not to raise any flags. I just got off the phone with my OB's office and set up an appointment the first week of August in a few weeks to go over things with him as to our plans. Basically my OB delivered M's kids but she has since transfered to an OB closer to her house. After discussing things it seems like we would deliver numero two (aka operation 101 Top secret Ops) through my OB once again for several reasons. My OB knows of our plan to do a gestational carrier pregnancy - but I just want to solidify plans with him and make sure we're all on the same page. That will be dealt with at the appointment in a couple of weeks. If M would rather deliver through her current OB I'm totally cool with that. Anything to make things easier for her since she is already doing so much for us. But at the moment delivering through mine is the plan. There are a lot of positives and negatives to this plan - but I definitely think the positives outweigh the negatives at the moment. More thoughts on that later. Basically - my OB works where I work and delivers with the people I work with. Enough said - privacy can only be kept to a certain extent when that is the case. However - on a positive note....the care I got while on bedrest and in the hospital those last few months was phenominal. It's like being taken care of by friends...enough said once again, LOL!

Normally our insurances would cover some of the testing such as the HIV screen and STD testing of all partners as said. The rest is all out of pocket such as the meds, ultrasouds, mock transfer and transfer itself. That being said - I believe we'll just do all out of pocket to make things easier as far as the hopefully once we get pregnant part. Aug 4th is my appointment to discuss things in further depth with my OB (if I don't get a chance to at work first). Then two days later on Aug 6th M and possibly her husband also will do their lab work and screening as well as meeing with my beloved RE. At that time I'm hoping he'll go through all the med cycle and mock transfer with M - all of which I've told her already. But to hear it from the doc is always nice. Hubby and I will get our lab work drawn also at that time. Then it's full steam ahead. I'm thinking maybe sometime this fall? All will depend on M and what she wants to do of course.

Part of me is so excited to begin this next process. But part of me is so worried all at the same time. We are thawing three embryos. What if we do the meds and cycle and put M through all the ultrasounds and none of the embryos survive? What if all survive - should we transfer all three? What if we even transfer two and both take in M's great uterus? What if she ends up on bedrest? What if they take and M has a miscarriage and has to undergo a D & C just because of us? She is so wonderful and says this is all do-able....but I feel like she is being such an amazing person. I just want everything to go so smoothly for her and her family. She is a God send literally. I just want nothing but the best for her and worry if anything goes anyway but picture perfect. I know most pregnancies are just fine. But because ours was anything but, I worry for her...you know? She has a great record with three perfect pregnancies so things should be good...but you never know. She is like a sister to me and I just worry because that's in my nature....worry wart Sara.