Monday, September 6, 2010

FET is a big ole negative

We're just returning from our holiday weekend up north in Michigan from at my parent's cottage on Lake Huron. Despite having a great time, I woke up Saturday morning to my period. I wasn't terribly surprised since I had cheated and taken a few home tests prior to my beta at the RE's. All of which were negative. Hmmm. But it was still a blow to any last minute hopes, or any Hail Mary's I was hoping might make their appearance. In fact we decided to stay up north one more day and we returned today on Labor Day. I didn't feel like there was any point in cutting our trip short to get lab work drawn when I would know the result. So tomorrow morning I'll get up early and head down to the office for the last of the formality that will end our cycle. So a twin miscarriage and now a FET that didn't have a positive ending...I guess it's back to the drawing board. Right now I'm not sure what we'll do next. We've talked that this may be it for now - but to be honest I'm not sure what looms in the near future. We're out of embryos, and the thought of forking over $17,000 out of pocket for another fresh IVF cycle seems a bit daunting at this point in our lives. So we'll see. Thanks for the good wishes and checking in. Infertility bites sometimes, huh? It just plain sucks.

44 comments:

Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essential said...

So sorry, Sara, thinking of you with <3.
Infertility totally bites...

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear that.
I did three IVF - all failed... Infertility sucks (morally and financially)
Give a big hug to your daughter, it will make you feel much better...

Meghan said...

I'm so sorry! This is all so unfair and I wish I had something to say beyond "i'm sorry". I'll be thinking of you all as you heal from this

HereWeGoAJen said...

Ah, Sara, that really sucks. I'm sorry.

AtYourCervix said...

I'm so sorry :-(

MrsSpock said...

Oh crap! Hugs to you!

JJ said...

Giant hugs! I hate the financial burden of IF. Sending you you peace...

Amanda said...

I'm so sorry Sara. This sucks big time. (((hugs)))

Natalie at Our Old Southern House said...

it SUCKS. infertility is brutal. i hate it. i try not to be bitter, but it's hard.
i'm sorry for y'all.

electriclady said...

Oh, I'm so, so sorry. That really sucks.

Jill said...

I'm so sorry to hear it didn't work. Infertility is hard in every way. I don't look forward to when we decide to start trying again. God will have to tell me when it's time because the thought of it makes me feel ill. :(

((hugs))

martina said...

I'm so sorry Sarah, you still have time you are very young and give yourself little time to recover and try again. Don't give up your dreams and hopes. Life is full of surprises. Infertility sucks I have been there, but like I said before don't give up hope. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Kristin said...

I am so sorry honey.

Jen said...

I'm so sorry, Sara.

Annalien said...

I am so sorry! This totally sucks. Praying for you.

Photogrl said...

I'm so sorry the cycle didn't end with a better outcome.

Big, huge ((HUGS))!

Hilary said...

All I can say is I'm sorry and will be praying for you guys :(

The Mommy said...

I was hoping that things would be different. Infertility does suck! My thoughts and prayers will be with you as you decide where to go from here.

battynurse said...

Damn. I'm so sorry. I'm sorry that money plays a part in deciding family size but I'm right there too so I know what you mean. Thinking of you and sending hugs.

Cibele said...

HUGS. I am so sorry

Heather Moore said...

Oh Sara, I'm sorry! You've been on my mind a lot and I was really praying hard you'd have a different outcome. (((hugs)))

Anonymous said...

Aw, babe, I am so sorry to hear this. The financial part of this stuff is a bitch. There is no other way to say it. Thinking of you...

Marianne said...

I'm so sorry this cycle didn't work. You sound like you are in an okay place...I am impressed. Don't stress yourself out trying to make a plan now, there's time for that later.
And infertility definitely does suck.

Aunt Becky said...

I'm so sorry, love.

Mazzy said...

I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you and praying for what's to come.
xoxo

MissNoAngel (find me on Twitter) said...

Aw crap! Crap, crap, crap...I am so sorry sweetie. Sending great big, squishy ((hugs))

On My Mind 24/7 said...

Oh Sara, I am so sorry. It does suck :(

TylerandBrianne said...

I am sorry. I was really praying for a positive. Infertility is a very hard pill to swallow.

mommy2madilyn said...

Sara, I've been following your blog since the beginning but never left a comment. I am so so SO sorry for the outcome of this cycle! I've been hoping and hoping to read happy news from you! Like someone else here said earlier, hug your beautiful daughter, she'll help! Peace to you!

edie & ella said...

I am sorry. You are right ... infertility sucks!!!

Bionic Baby Mama said...

i'm so sorry.

ApronStringsEm said...

Oh Sara ... I'm so sorry. Sending big HUGS your way.

Carrie27 said...

Infertility bites waaaay too often to all the wrong people. Big ole hugs, hun!

Anonymous said...

So sorry Sara. I'm thinking of you and your husband during this time.

Bethanie said...

so sorry your FET didn't work out. Was wondering if you've considered Frozen Embryo Adoption. It's cheaper sometimes and I've read that it sometimes works better for some reason.

Beautiful Mess said...

I'm so sorry sweetie. Please know I'm thinking of you and sending you a huge hug from Oregon.
*HUGS*

Trish said...

Oh no! I'm so, so sorry.

The Lynchs said...

I'm so sorry Sara. Infertility DOES suck, so this is me, sending virtual chocolate and lots of wine your direction.

Thinking of you this week!

Thankful Terri said...

Sara, so sorry.. I agree with everyone else it sucks..

Jen said...

I'm sorry Sara, truly. I know the heartbreak the negative brings. Please allow yourself to feel and decide what is your next best step, but don't give up hope. (hugs)
~Jen

Two Shorten the Road said...

I'm so sorry to hear the bad news. Thinking of you. <3

88highburycorner said...

I'm really sorry Sara, that f***ing sucks. Hope you are doing okay.

Anonymous said...

Sara I'm SO sorry to read your news. BFNs are so hard and BFNs from your last frozen embryos are even harder. It's that feeling of being back at square one all over again. Its cruel, and I'm so sorry. x

Geohde said...

I am so very sorry, Sara.

Hoping both of us do better, soon.

It gets hard to keep summoning up the resources, though, huh?

much love,

g